We all look forward to a life we can enjoy
Sometimes issues develop in life which can undermine our expectations, and a few seem to resist our personal attempts to sort them out.
If you find yourself in this situation it's worth seeking professional help. Qualified therapists can guide you to deal with many such issues allowing you to enjoy your life again.
Common Issues Presented to Therapists
Exam Nerves Low Self Esteem Low Confidence
Fears/Phobias Give up Smoking Sleeping Issues
Panic Attacks Shame or Guilt Self Image Issues
Resolve Bad Habits Embarrassment Feelings of Despair
Anxiety / Stress Blushing Issues Goal Achievement
Issues with Anger Low Motivation Weight Issues
Do any of the above prevent you from living the life you want? Consider asking a local therapist or your GP for help.
There is no point suffering in silence when help is available.
It's Not Neccesarily So!
Some people believe they know what the underlying cause of their issues are, only to find out later that their beliefs were actually rationalizations - inner stories generated to make sense of their current feelings and situations.
So whether you know the nature of the issue you have, or whether you don't know - if it gives you worry, concern, anxiety, or fear and you are unable to sort it out for yourself - do talk about the issue with your GP or a local therapist.
It is quite likely that you may be surprised when you discover what was really causing the problem you had.
It may not necessarily be what you thought it was! - and this of course can explain why you found it difficult to resolve.
Can you get therapy for your issue?
If you feel that you are suffering worry, concern or anxiety because you cannot resolve something that is "on your mind", then therapy may be able to help - it never hurts to talk to your GP or local therapist about the possibility.
For guidance, a brief checklist of broad scenarios that indicate the possibility of issues is highlighted in purple below. Almost everything listed in the table at the top of the page would normally fit into at least one of the scenarios below.
The list covers common feelings which are felt by clients when they approach therapists for all manner of specific circumstances.
The list isn't saying that you need to have these feelings in everything you do, you may only have them in relation to specific issues, but if those are what give you concern - then therapy could help.
- Are you suffering persistent anxiety, worries or concerns, or have fears of any kind, or self doubt that you can't resolve alone?
- Do you keep striving to find things like satisfaction, happiness, a sense of achievement in life and so on - but find they always evade you leaving you disappointed and miserable?
- Are there things you habitually do in life which you would prefer to stop doing, or to replace with something more beneficial for you?
- Does shame, guilt or embarrassment often hold you back from doing things you would like to do?
- Do you have low self esteem, feel ignored or unworthy?
- Is lack of self confidence an issue for you that you leaves you feeling helpless or ineffective
- Do you have plans or ambitions to do things, but find that they never seem to work out for yo
If you have an issue which doesn't fit the above outlines, and feel you need help, please do contact either your GP or a local therapist and ask whether they can help. The list is not exhaustive.
Problems or issues will affect us all from time to time - and some do prove difficult to resolve. But as long as you are able to maintain your determination to resolve them, and stay positive, you should not have concerns.
It's when you have wrestled with the same problems or issues for some time without making headway, and notice yourself getting more anxious about them - or about the fact that you can't resolve them, that therapy could be useful.
Many problems in life are simply unfortunate circumstances, coming together in our life to produce a degree of conflict in our mind. Intense fears and phobias generate very high anxiety and tend to occur in relatively short, intense episodes, while less intense fears generate lower levels of anxiety which may persist for long periods of time if the issue remains unresolved.
The subconscious mind will be quick to spot conflicts between what you have accepted as normal or correct in the past, and what you seem to be doing, - or thinking of doing, in the present.
If a proposed or active action or plan might conflict with your current belief system, or usual behaviour patterns, or put you in a risky situation, your subconscious may invoke the anxiety response - even if the risk is relatively slight. What you feel as a result of the anxiety response may range from mild symptoms of anxiety all the way up to intense fear or panic, depending on the subconsciously perceived degree of threat.
Sometimes you will be able to resolve the issue yourself if you have insight of the underlying problem, sometimes you may have a subconscious block - and it can just prove too difficult to overcome alone.
Often, when trying to resolve issues yourself you may tend to repeat the same methods, or mistakenly believe you know the underlying issue and just keep trying to resolve that. If these strategies don't work, you can become lost for ideas and feel unable to make progress.
To obtain a successful therapy outcome, it greatly helps if you truly want to resolve your issue and be determined to work with the therapist. They need your involvement to be able to help you achieve a resolution to your issues.
A therapist cannot personally solve your issues for you!
They can help you to solve your own issues - if you work with them.